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Some Real-Life Threesome Experiences

Reality and fantasy are often drastically different. In the movies, threesomes are hot and steamy, but in the ‘real world’, they can be clunky, awkward, and filled with emotional complications like jealousy, projection, and feelings of neglect. Enthusiastic, non-coerced consent is the largest factor, merged with open communication of expectations.

For some sexual couples, threesomes are a way to explore unresolved attraction to people outside your ‘pairing’, while for others, it’s more about fulfilling fantasies or adding some spice to your love life. Emotional threesomes are drastically different from purely physical ones, and everyone involved should be clear on the parameters of your shared intimacy.

Of course, for some people‘triples’ are a routine part of their sex lives. Others may approach it as an ‘out of the box’ approach to sexual challenges like premature ejaculation. It’s a potential solution you can mutually explore with a sexual surrogate or a willing partner. Let’s look at a few actual experiences.

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“It made us better”

*Kayla’s experience with a threesome wasn’t planned. The 38-year-old and her partner were spending the day with a close female friend and asked her to stay over. As the day wound down, they shared a group hug and Kayla’s friend nuzzled her neck. Kayla instinctively responded by kissing her, and soon they were making out.

At first, Kayla’s partner just watched them, and he seemed to enjoy it, but both the ladies wanted him to join in, so he did, and they went back and forth among themselves. Although it was Kayla’s idea for her partner to make out with her friend, because she wanted to see them together, she admitted that during certain moments, she felt left out.

She says she loved him more that night than she ever had before, but at certain points, because she could see that they were enjoying themselves without her, it niggled her. Most of the time though, it was exciting for her to watch and experience her partner’s pleasure ‘from the outside.’

The next day, Kayla’s friend left, but all three discussed their experience together, talking about specific physical, emotional, and sexual issues that arose. They agreed that they all enjoyed it and were open to doing it again. Kayla and her partner now regularly experience polyamory, but they agree that it must be open and mutual at all times. No secrets.

“It was just a fantasy”

*Erin, 34, experienced her threesome at a private party. A couple invited her into their bed. She was attracted to the female partner, but the guy was average. She made it clear that while she was okay with touching and pleasure from him, she didn’t want sex or kissing.

He was respectful, pleasured both women to orgasm, and they fell asleep. The next morning, they got a little playful and a third girl joined them, giving Erin cunnilingus. She says it was a pleasurable item that she was glad to tick off her ‘bucket list’.

For *Kevin, 60, it was almost like they never happened. He had lots of threesomes in is 20s and 30s, but in the morning, everyone went on with their ‘normal’ lives and never discussed it, so it just felt like a pleasant dream. He never repeated a threesome with the same woman, though on two separate occasions, he and his regular partner spontaneously invited one of her friends into their bed. The friend would never spend the night though.

“It confirmed my identity”

For *Brittney, who has known she was lesbian since high school, it reinforced her sexuality. She’s 27 now, but in high school, she got high with her girlfriend and a mutual male friend, and pretty soon they were all making out. Her girlfriend went down on the boy, and while they don’t have sex, the three of them made out for forty minutes. Britney said it wasn’t uncomfortable, just weird. They never talked about it afterwards, and Brittney kept dating the girl for a few years, before they finally split up over something unrelated.

*Jake’s story was a little different. In his late thirties/early forties, his friend invited him for an experimental threesome with her fiancée. Both women were openly lesbian, and Jake’s friend said she simply wanted to fulfil her girlfriend’s fantasy. The focus was on thefiancée’s pleasure, and she directed the pace and ‘action’.

Jake says the one-off experience was casual, warm, fun, light-hearted, and loving. He is still friendly with both of them, and believes their five-year relationship is now polyamorous with other partners, even though he never had sex with them again.

“I got so confused”

At her friend’s birthday party, Janet, 28, told him a threesome was a life goal for her. The next week, he flirted with her at a party. Another guy joined them, and he started flirting with her too. She had gotten started with the other guy a few days before, but didn’t know they were best friends. They didn’t seem upset about the three-way flirting though.

Janet wasn’t sure which one of them she was into, and after a few drinks, she decided to give them both passionate kisses, one after the other. The three of them ended up having a threesome on the basement stairs, which left her with some bruising, though she didn’t mind at the time. In the coming days, both guys seemed to want to date her, but they valued each other more, so they both backed off from pursuing her.

“It changed my perspective”

When 25 year-old Marie and her long-time best friend met a hot surfer on vacation, they decided to have a threesome with him. At first it was fun, but then it got awkward, and changed how they saw each other. For a while, they almost lost their friendship, and they were distant for a year, but they’ve reconnected and are much closer now.

Lynn, 26, is bisexual, and had been dating a man for 5 years. After the break up, she was seeking casual sex with women, so she got active on Bumble and Feeld. She met a gorgeous redhead who invited her to ‘party’ with her and (the redhead’s) husband.

The couple was in an open marriage, and Lynn had never been with a married pair. She was nervous about potential jealousy between them, but was pleasantly surprised at how well they knew each other’s sexual wants, and how focused they both were on pleasing her. She marks it as one of her best threesome experiences.

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